Gratitude & Grief

I was shattered into a million pieces. I am a bit groundless, looking desperately for the rug that had been pulled from beneath my happy normal life, only to find that someone has taken the floor too.

  

                                         

After we experience a loss, we tend to focus on what we no longer have. As a result we focus our energy on the negative, or what is missing in our life, rather than on the positive, or all of those wonderful things we still have. Yet gratitude can be one of the most healing tools we have.

Being grateful for what remains after you have experienced that rug of your life being ripped away, or the whole floor. it can be a powerful way to deal with, and heal, that loss. My thoughts, the ones I have discovered are often experienced by someone who is grieving, sometimes turned to darker questions like, 

“How can I go on?” 

“How did this happen?”

“WHY?”

Grief also brought up a feeling of emptiness, depression, and hopelessness.

I knew Thanksgiving was going to be hard, I knew the reason I had been triggered and struggling I knew it was Thanksgiving day. 

Thanksgiving 1996, I thought I found my eternity. I said YES to the one person I wanted in my life and wanted to create a future with. I had no idea that day the future would include abandonment. 

Then I realized it was okay for me to feel gratitude and grief that this day was a reminder of all I wanted in life all I had dreamed and built. It was a reminder of the love I gave freely even if it was ripped away and I was blind to the truth of the lies.  

I had been beating myself up for

Feeling this because I can’t find the joy, it’s been temporary stripped from life but I had so many moments and people to be grateful for. 

Gratitude has the power to help those in grief rise above their loss. That rug that turned into a whole floor. It can provide hope. And, perhaps most important, is that the lord is right there saying this...