I believed in happily ever after and true love as a child and then the movies in my teen helped reinforce this theory... Julia Roberts ends up with Richard Gere in Pretty woman, oh and how about Can't Buy me Love, it seems like the girl always finds her ONE...
So the statement my friend made yesterday was " I believed there was that one and only someone for everyone." I don't believe that anymore I thought I had found him and then it all fell apart, not for the lack of trying on her part but she was the only one willing to fight when the happily ever after came crashing down...
So why is it that as children we are led to believe that life is a fairy tale? That when we find our Prince Charming we will live Happily Ever After?
I can now say I no longer believe in this fair tale! Yes I will admit some people find it and live it but the percentage of that actually happening are slim to none in my opinion...
The ugly truth about life is you may find your Prince Charming and you may actually live happily ever after but if you do, it will be because of the hard work and dedication you put into making it happen!
It will not be a fairly tale, you will have problems and things will go wrong, you will fight about, Money, sex & time, because you will never have enough of any of it. So yes you might make it to happily ever after with your Prince Charming but it will indeed never be a fairly tale!
Some of us will think we find our Prince Charming to discover he was only Charming to win us over and then treated us like one of the ugly step sisters when indeed the glass slipper perfectly fit. He however discovered a new princess. That you Snow White after taking care of your 7 dwarfs (kids) all day go to sleep to never be woken up by True Loves Kiss... That Many can and do buy LOVE right off the Internet, and lets face it ladies if our profession has something to do with working the street corner we are never going to end up with Richard Gere.
So again I ask why is it we are lead to believe in this fairy tale and why is it that I am judged for letting my children realize that there are UGLY truths in life, should I let them believe this fairy tale so that Prince Charming can come along and rip their heart out? Is it wrong that I prepare them for the bad and don't allow them to live in a bubble and discover it on there own?
I do hope they are the slim percent that this actually happens for? I would want nothing more for all of them.
But the reality is I am the middle child of 5 girls and have watched as 2 of my sisters fairy tales ended in Divorce, I have had struggles in my own marriage and almost ended up the same. So 2.5 of us did not end up with that fairly tale that we thought was our Prince Charming!
So yes the ugly truth of life is that fairy tale, Prince Charming, happily ever after is BULLSHIT!
Sometimes I look at other people and marvel at the relationships they have and wonder why I don't seem to have the same things they have. I think that blogs and Facebook sometimes do us all a disservice. Sometimes what people publish about their lives is just a facade. People craft an image of a seemingly fairy tale life. Everyone has struggles, you just don't always see them. No one has the perfect everything. I have to remind myself all the time not to compare my situation to others.
ReplyDeleteYes I have also been guilty at marveling at other people's happiness but if you look hard enough and deep enough you will recognize the fake from the real! I am not saying it does not exist! I am just saying people should stop faking it and be real then maybe we would not judge ourselves so hard for our short comings. Oh and I think Facebook should indeed add a nobody gives a flying rats ass button:)
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